She moved out...now the work begins...Part 4

[SBJ]

Thanks Roist...it is hard to resist those urges to try and pull them home. I will have to keep reminding myself to stand firm. I don't think she was saying conditions for anything...but she doesn't like the fact that I still have a relationship with her sister and BIL. She feels that they are out to get her.

Cali, she had initially called to tell me about one of the kids being sick...once that was done, she then began by asking how I was and then BAM...the venting began. Before I knew it, we'd been on the phone for 30-45 minutes. Again, I just tried to validate her and only responded with "you know what I want", when she had said something similar.

I agree on the availability thing...I'm NC unless it is kid related or a financial question. It has been difficult, since for as long as I can remember, we spoke several times per day. I guess at some point, when she is alone at her place, maybe she feels the loss. But I know I cannot assume anything about what she feels.

Rose...I don't know what I mean by consoling her. I guess I just mean to be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on. She has never been that emotional of a person, so it never happened before. She has always had a way of compartmentalizing things and internalizing her feelings. I guess today she started opening up into some of the things that are eating at her.