She moved out...now the work begins...Part 4

[AndrewP]

SBJ - You did just fine and should be proud of yourself.

My own STBX started facing the rumours and talk before she moved out at which point it got a "lot" more specific I believe. In my case she never called me (about anything) and I probably wouldn't have been as compassionate as you were. She also never accused me of spreading any of the rumours although she perhaps may have thought it.

This is her journey and her choices and as much as you want to, you can't fix it for her and make it all better. I still remember one day a couple of weeks before she moved out STBX being incredibly down and I said that I wished there was something I could do to help. She turned away saying "No - It's all on me". I was so very proud of her that day.

I said at one point, "You know how I feel and what I want", and she replied that that was not possible if I still talked to her sister about our sitch. My response was that I don't speak to her about our sitch, but just common courtesy type things.

I hate to be cynical - these situations do that. I wouldn't believe that this was an offer of "if you do X then we can get back together". It was probably just her hurt.

Stay strong my friend and believe in yourself.