When there is a WW or MLC, the W will usually step beneath her previous standards. That goes for the type of men she may date, her new circle of friends, her activities/behavior, the way she dresses, and her overall lifestyle.
I don't claim to have read every story posted on the board, however, I'll say this......the pattern usually shows they affair down. In other words, she will have a secret affair with some guy that looks like a joke. He doesn't work, or he makes much less than her present lifestyle demands. The OM may be the complete opposite of the taste in men she previously preferred. Most LBH's are shocked when they see a photo of OM, or learn about his track record with previous jobs, women, etc.
Avoiding people she knows will not support her new behavior, is very common. That's why she will make new friends who are into the things she's doing.
While I strongly agree with what Sandi says that most of the stories we read about they "Affair down." My WW actually seems to have affaired up, at least in my eyes. Her OM is in much better shape than I am, has a higher paying job in management, much bigger/nicer house, nicer car, nicer motorcycles, ect. However one thing that I have him on is that I AM NOT MORALLY BANKRUPT!!! He is a morally bankrupt predator. None of this really makes me feel better, and I do find myself comparing to him occasionally and get pretty upset. But I just wanted to offer a different perspective.
