@Sotto: I certainly appreciate your perspective on this. I agree that being on multiple forums is a bit confusin at times. I am one of those people that likes to investigate every possible angle of a situation and resolution. It is a challenge though to know which advice to take from which forum. I will say that the people on this board have more of soft approach than the people on the other boards that I have visited, but I don't know that is necessarily a good or bad thing. I'm not looking for a silver bullet as I know regardless it will be a long process. I am looking for something that will start that process moving forward...one way or the other. Currently I'm in "limbo", while she's out getting love from another man with no consequences. I am definitely working on GAL as I have been going out with friends as much as they can tolerate me and I have been exercising at least once a day, but it still doesn't feel like "enough".
@Vapo: I would say that immediately after she moved out was when reality hit me the hardest. That or the first time I found out she was at OM's house after she moved out to "find herself and who she is". However, I definitely feel like I am pretty close to that level of emotional destruction right now. I can't really lose anymore weight haha, I would probably die. I went from 180 the day of bomb drop to 132 today. (Lost 48 punds in about 3 months and have pretty much stayed there). Sleeping has gotten a bit better with the help of some medication. Eating though has still been extremely hit or miss.
