me going semi-dark seems to be effecting her. she is asking me "what am I thinking" now and then and she is paying attention to me and petting on me in bed at night. she still does not want to have sex or wear our ring and she still secretly emails celeb though. so I have no idea what is going on in her head.
my son had a great birthday over the weekend. younger son's birthday is up in feb so hopefully that will go well also.