. And maybe I did work on it, but I realized that I'm 40 something and don't want to have the ups and downs in our marriage. I refrained from saying every marriage has them and just agreed instead.
Wow. My ex had this idea of what a marriage is supposed to be, and a good marriage doesn't include "ups and downs" in her eyes. Sounds a bit like what yours said. Ew.
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He finally said the ILBNILWY and that he firmly believes once it's gone, it's gone. We talked about some financial things and I asked if we could just postpone things for a few months to get our debt in order. He said no. After a few minutes I finally said I think I've had enough for one night we can talk some more later.
Once again, his feeling is parroting my ex's. Interesting. His not wanting to postpone is concerning, to say the least. You can drag your feet, if need be. Don't let him dictate the circumstances.
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Part of me feels better, on a better footing. The other part is dying.
It sounds like you are doing better - keep it up! We are all dying inside from this, some just choose not to admit it.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
