I guess the short answer to most of your questions is I have expectations when I know I shouldn't. I expect things from someone I used to know that is gone. I haven't let go and that is why it affects me. I see bad decisions and I expect better because w used to have a good head on her shoulders. I expect better from her as a mother. I know I need to work on no expectations.
I don't think much about my apology, it was a simple sorry I missed your call.... But I will keep this thought. Next time it will be I messed your call.
I got woke up by a text at 5 this morning. She said sorry she didn't call she was talking to her mom about her sister, making it sound like something was really wrong. I didn't reply. She texted then called just before 8 to see if she could talk to the kids. I waited until I got to work and let her know they wanted to go to work with me and she could call whenever.
She sent some friendly texts after work about coming to get the kids. She was here a little bit and I was nice and didn't say anything except normal conversation. I did ask how her sister was, she didn't say much and said it wasn't much of anything. I dropped it and didn't say anything else. Just before she was going to leave she got a text from her old boss about looking at the pups and asked if it was okay. I think I kept things comfortable and friendly even though she was the one w confided in at the beginning of the crisis and I don't think she helped our sitch one bit.
W was very quiet for awhile after they left but I stayed friendly and we ended up having dinner and a glass of wine before she left.
I will try to be more patient, I don't feel I am but at least I know enough not to act. I need to improve on this.
