I ditto Roist. She is allowed to be unreliable in calling her kids if she so chooses. That is all on her.

However, when she then provides all the excuses of why she didn't call, I wouldn't validate any of that. In fact, I would face her and listen (with no angry body language) but say absolutely nothing. Obviously, if there's a will there's a way. It is not your responsibility to make her feel better about that. Usually silence speaks volumes.

Nice job being so patient though!


Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced