It seems I typed my previous post while you were posting yours.
Really happy for you.

Mine husband is telling me the same that I was not verbally nice to him, Hello I didn't cheat you did... but like you I keep control of my tongue, even during piecing they are still very very touchy... The reservation things... I had the same speech... it's like they are testing the water to see if we are still interested to be with them. But be cautious don't rush full speed, see what the speed he is comfortable with.

I totally understand you reasons to be careful, I had to tell my daughter to stop wearing her athletic sweater with her name outside the school, I am so afraid of her being assaulted verbally. She is well known and very popular (Summa Cum Laude, student council and, a state bound athlete) at her high school but outside...

Big hugs dear Sara


Me 52+ WH 57+
Married 20 +
Piecing since 2016 (ready to give up...)