Thanks for your reply. It does help to have your insight.
No I have not looked up a course. Well I did but didn't find one and I didn't go back to it. But assertiveness is on my desired traits list and I have looked into that. It is ongoing. I will relook at a course.
. Assertiveness is important and yes some assertive ways are counterproductive. My post was looking for people's suggestions on productive ways. I will look into it.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
