No, Lana, your h doesn't care about you or what you are going through at this time. It's all about him and his appearance to others. He may say he is working too hard to make something and pay his debt, but he's not helping you and the kids.
My advice...seek the advice of a lawyer and set up some child support now. It's been three years and it's time he step up to the plate and help take care of his kids and their needs and his support needs to be in line w/what your state says he should pay, not what he thinks he should pay.
In MLC they ignore us, and in some cases, completely. You and the kids are part of his past and he wants to keep the past right there, in the past. He's living in the here and now and unfortunately none of you are part of that present he's living in.
So, my question to you is this...do you want to divorce him? If so, how do you see your life changing once you are divorced and that little piece of paper is in your hand? Will you sell your home and move elsewhere?
If you are ready to file, we will stand behind you all of the way, but I don't think you are there just yet. I think you are totally frustrated w/the way he's been and I also think that we all tend to compare our spouses to the other posters' spouses and how they are dealing w/their mlcs. Each one is different and yet, very similar.
Think long and hard about what you want and when you are ready...you'll know what to do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
