NYGal: Together and Doing the Work

[Stormchaser]

Trust. It's not easy. Today W and ow were in a 5 hour meeting meeting together. We reviewed the protocol this morning before work. Don't sit together, avoid her, etc. Text updates. W: Of course, I promise!
I got one text... "all fine, not at my table."
I wrote back, "What did you say to her?" I got nothing back until 20 minutes after the meeting. "I just got out. No communication." Oh, ok, fine. Except for the fact that I was in a meeting in the same building and saw them walk out together smiling and laughing 10 minutes earlier. Together.

This is 9 months after we began reconciliation, people. Seven months after I moved back home. The lies continue. So Stormchaser, if you're seeing this? Good luck to you my friend. It takes a whole lot of self control to deal with these situations.

So, what became of this?

If its any consolation, I also just found out my W had communicated with OM. Being its a fitness/health type facility, I had figured there HAD to be some kind of communication besides the usual "hello goodbye". W constantly reassured me that they rarely if ever speak, but then casually told me just now that she had referred a client to "butthole". So, of course, because they now have the same client, I know there's going to be regular interaction between them.

This discourages me, yet I know it was bound to come out. I'm pretty angry, yet I know why its done. To avoid such arguments. I was told in therapy that its a protective thing the WS do - they know they caused all this harm, so to stop causing anything more they lie. Its likely nothing is going on. More than likely. Almost 100% certain. The WS is feeling back to normal so they want to return back to a normal life, yet here we are, the betrayed, being triggered by these casual encounters.

Ugh.