Courage, I have to say, I think you are aptly named! In reading your sitch, my heart goes out to you. Fortunately, when I went through D, my kids were all adults, out of the house. So, there was no back and forth with H trying to get him to do the right thing where they were concerned.
Kudos to you for fighting for that sweet girl! And for not wanting her to suffer needlessly. You sound like such a good mom. Hang in there!
Dawn, thank you. I REALLY needed to hear that today.
I think there is one significant item that I failed to report to those reading, an update of sorts.
In September 2015 my stbx was diagnosed with a brain tumor that is theorized to be malignant. I say theorized because it is in a location that makes it impossible to biopsy. It basically has taken over his entire hypothalamus. There seems to be some debate on how best to treat it but he has chosen the "wait and see and if it grows we attack it with radiation" route. The prognosis is rather nebulous. As long as it's not growing, he has about 10+ years. When it starts to grow ("when", not "if"), he may have from 3-12 months. He has scans every 3-6 months to track whether it's growing. He has put off the most recent scan that was due in November. Why? Because he is "getting his thyroid issue back under control". See, in 2013 he was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, had his thyroid removed along with about 27 lymph nodes and then had radioactive iodine treatment to kill off any remaining thyroid cells. He was put on thyroid hormone meds with strict instruction that if he lapsed in taking them or took them inconsistently, serious problems could occur and his cancer could come back. Well guess what. His thyroid cancer is back.
Yeah. I know.
Previously known as ss06 Kid: D9 M: 12 yrs together 18 D final: pending
"These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb." - Najwa Zebian
