Newbie Thread 6

[NYGal]

How are you today, hawk?

[hawker]

I'm ok....I knew I would hear from her today...usually Monday's...it was first day back to school after break....she texted me about a student...I had to reply (business)...I didn't want to get into the chit chat...she did text some stuff about her mom's visit

Later she texted about our friend and said she missed her and then she said I miss all of you. blah......I said "I am sure you do"....

[lt0402]

Hawk, how're you hanging in there? Sorry about your cowboys last night. As much as I dislike them they had a great season and that was a great game. Hope you got a chance to watch it with friends. Hope you're doing well!

[hawker]

Hey LT...I'm hanging in there..I have continued to volunteer at the animal shelter on Friday nights and at the golf course on Sunday morning so I can get free golf!! :-) I hung out with friends friday night and last night watching football...sadly the cowboys and chiefs lost close games. :-(

oh well.....W texted Wed and Fri...started off by asking her questions on some diet challenge she is going to do...she's D ing me but she wants my help...no thanks...ugh...its like the D doesn't matter????

Friday she was concerned with the ice storm my family was going to get...

I didn't answer since there wasn't anything really to reply too...haven't heard anything this weekend which I am not surprised....we actually have today off so I will go workout and do some errands...

Hope you all have a good day!!

[Dawgs]

she's D ing me but she wants my help...no thanks...ugh...its like the D doesn't matter????

Mine did and still does the same thing. Reason being is twofold: to get you in the mindset of being "buddies," which leads to easing her guilt.

[hawker]

Yes, that is what I was thinking as well Jeep...ease the guilt and be in the friendzone....

[lt0402]

Hawk, I had the day off as well. Got to love those random Monday holidays during the year! Got a lot of stuff done today which was nice.

You're doing the right thing by not responding. I know it's got to be a downer but I don't think it'd help you to send back a response to those texts. There may be a time or topic where you need to, but those don't seem to be it.

Keep doing what you're doing. It's a good path you're treading down right now!

[hawker]

I haven't posted in awhile since there isn't a lot to report. The stbx started texting from the gym on Monday (we had off)since SOW wasn't with her. She was talking about the football games and how lifting was hard to get back into after taking off for her back surgery.

I did reply and said yes it took me awhile to get back in it after taking time off and she was surprised I took some time off. I was like yes after all that had happened I needed to take a break. She said "sorry that is probably my fault". No sh#t. LOL

I wanted to say a few things before I went dark again since she has been trying to friend zone me. I guess she didn't like what I had to say since I haven't heard from her since.

She doesn't like to feel guilty and what I said maybe made her? Who knows, actually I am okay with not hearing from her, it makes it easier for me and I don't feel the up and down of emotions after talking with her.

I have avoided her at school as well. I still am continuing to stay busy, teaching a class 2 nights a week along with my regular job and volunteering at the dog rescue and golf course.

[hawker]

Oh ya she did say "I didn't mean to start anything I just wanted to check on you". "I know it doesn't make it better but I am sorry for everything."

[lt0402]

Hawk, I think you're right that she's trying to assuage her guilt. How often are you speaking with her now? Was Monday the first time in awhile?

How is the volunteering at the dog rescue? I've got a friend who does this every week and she loves it. Seems to be very relaxing being around all of the animals.

Hope your week has ended well and you've got good plans for the weekend. Keep it up hawk!