Be careful in relying too much on books and all. While some give great advice, only you know your wife. Take mine for instance, all of the advice and suggestions from the numerous books I have read had the opposite effect on her - it pushed her even further away because it seemed to her as if I was uncaring. However, mine has such issues as to "normal" things don't work for her. But then again, neither do non-normal things, too. There just wasn't any help - and sadly that is the way it is for many of us...once that bridge has been crossed, especially when adultery is the path, the support beams fail and the bridge is gone, severing the path permanently. I'm not saying its impossible to regain, but its akin to climbing an icy, mud covered mountain with nothing but flip-flops on your feet.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
