Well here I am looking forwards

[roist]

Iwanted to do enough so that we could fix things but even if she turned arround tomorrow and said ...you know what I want to give us about her go ...I am 100% sure that at some point in the not so near future I would do something to let her down and this would be enough to trigger her thoughts that she was right all along and why did she give me another chance.

Hi Ghost.

Reread the above paragraph. What does that tell you about you?

Often. Very often, in your postings here YOU put YOURSELF down. If you don't like or value yourself, others won't either. I urge you to start working on that. There are loads of resources on the internet that could help.

Learn to know YOU
Learn to respect YOU
Learn what YOU want
Learn what YOU like
When you know these four things, you will be in a much better place to achieve other goals. But knowing these things is not enough. You must act and live them.

I live in a loveless M. I know how you feel. It does succk. But and it is a BIG BUT, you are living an in-house separation not a loveless M. You don't have to like this. You don't have to agree to it. It is a reality and you do have to accept it. Accept it and trust that the best and probably only way to save your M is to let it go. This is about doing what works.

Just to repeat another phrase often mentioned as a pillar of dbing is your W needs TIME and SPACE.

I feel that you are on the brink of a breakthrough in your thinking.let your thinking change. When you think differently you will DO differently and that is when real change can happen

Best wishes