Love is a decision - my story

[Seeker7]

I hear on the threads all the time about how WH come back more then WW. I found that interesting and came across an answer. Men tend to think of love as a commitment and women think of love as a feeling. So for females tend to leave their relationships once the felling is gone.

What happens is that couples tend to avoid dealing with their problems and needs. Females want the males to know their problems and needs but do not want to tell them. In their minds he should know what they need and should not have to tell them. So women think the man is avoiding the marital problems but in reality the women simply avoiding the problems also. So women use the man's avoidance to excuse their own avoidance.

So when a woman tells a man how she feels (which can be in indirect ways) the man disregards what she says as her being emotional or complaining. So over time she builds up resentment but does not want to leave the M because of the feeling she still has. So over time these feelings slowly fade away. While men do not realize this and just think that stuff is getting better and she stopped complaining. But the fact is women are just waiting until the point that they have the feeling of that they just don't care. So they just don't talk about it because they are afraid of losing their marriage before loosing their feelings.

So women that loose their feelings believe that their H doesn't care for them. They walk away and think that it is no big deal. But what they do not realize is that the man does really love them and since their view of love is commitment. That's were men make the mistake of ignoring their feeling because they have a different view.