Gordie: Pulling it all together

[Gordie]

KentS--thanks for the encouragement; If your threads are still on here, I will check them out; what has happened in the years since?

Seeker7--you are spot on; she doesn't want me to fix her, but just to listen to her and understand her, thanks for pointing that out.

Yesterday, I re read the DR section on infidelity and one of the exercises MWD encourages you to do if W doesn't want to give up partner is to ask: what is it about the OM that your W finds so attractive? Here is the humbling answer: he is like our old dog, always positive, no complaints, a great listener, doesn't criticize, obedient, doesn't question, always available, happy to just be in your presence.