FY and Z, thank ye for taking the time to reply.I will reply shortly bit just know I have heard what ye have said, I appreciate it and will act on it.
I had a touch of flu this week. Almost over it.
Anyway I am here tonight about something that I mentioned when in newcomers but still haven't mastered. We have two high spirited boys and lately our youngest (7) just won't go to sleep. Not only that he makes noise so it is disturbing. We have tried loads of techniques and different approaches. Regardless of the approach or reaction he could not give a d@mn. Pretty much his words!!
That is hard enough. But tonight (and other occasions too) when I am intervening my W will let know in front of son that my approach isn't working. I have mentioned this a few times to W. Not only do I find it disrespectful but more importantly I feel it undermines me with my kids.
Tonight I tried a new approach which actually was previously suggested by W. It was not working but I could not back down so I was trying to end the conflict and save face. Not an easy thing to do. W came IP and asked if son wanted to play in his room. I was too shocked and angry to say anything.
So now I am annoyed with myself for letting that happen. I am annoyed with W too but mostly with myself. If we separate one upside will be not having this sort of crap to deal with. I truly believe I can be a great dad alone. I strive to be one within our R but this shows I am failing.
This sort of situation and our general dynamics in general are not the role models I want for my sons. Maybe one day I may decide that it is healthier for them for us to separate but for now I believe staying together is in their interest.So the point of this post is to see if any of ye good folk have ideas or suggestions about this. I am eager to try to be the best I can and appreciate any comments. I will mention this incident to W tomorrow do if any suggestions about that would be welcome.
Rereading this I realise I am not angry but determined to learn from this.
