Gordie: Pulling it all together

[Gordie]

I was reading an old thread over in MLC by fisherman and got struck by something the said about his W that applies to my W:

She doesn't share her feelings easily. In her childhood, she learned that good girls don't share their true feelings but do what they are told. My W has alluded to that and think that was the fatal flaw in her mother's R with her father.

When these realizations come to you, do you discuss them with your spouse? Would it help to show empathy and understanding or is this something better to remain unspoken.