Well here I am looking forwards

[ATPeace]

Well as it was suggested that I move myself over here from newcomers I think this is a good move for me

I have been stuck in a rut for way too long and I really hope that this new forum will be my place to come when I need to vent and move myself ever forward

It is funny in the 19 months that it has taken me to get here I really feel that I have started to understand relationships a heck of a lot more

One area that I want to work on is my own insecurity and my fear of letting go of someone

I question why I cannot let go of my fear that my W would want to have male friends this has always been an area that I have struggled with scared that she would leave me and meet someone else.

In my last post I mentioned that she has been pm with a guy and really ...I do not know why I even bother about this any longer.

She will do what ever she wants to do in exactly the same way that when I get into a new relationship my next partner will be free to make her own choices.

I want to be happy and most of married life I have been happy at times selfishly putting my own needs first over my family and lessons have been learnt

I am a good man

So my goals for 2017

Loose more weight get my fat ass back to the gym and on a healthy eating program

Join a slimming group for motivation and never know I might and probably will make new friends

My house has been valued but no interest in it we do need to secure the best price so am in no rush

So at the moment still inhouse separation and my W is mostly acting pleasent and this is what,perhaps makes it harder for me to detach if she clearly hated me then moving forward would be easier

It just at time feels we are still in a relationship all be it without intimacy ...is this a relationship or is this an existence ? Do people not live in sexless relationships ...sheesh I am 47 and have 4 kids is sex the be all ...I just miss the affection

Well I hope that I can get to know more,of the MLC forum users

Ghost