I have been looking as the information and postings on this site for a few months. I have to say the postings whilst full of pain are a lot more positive than other forums I have looked at and full of recalling useful information.
My situation is as follows: BD and ILYBNILWY was May 2015 so not exactly a newbie it has been an incredible journey full of highs and lows. Initially contact was regular even though what I got was crumbs. Whilst I was always suspicious OW was not confirmed until June last year. Previously he always kept it hidden, I did not snoop but he was seen. Since he knows I know things have become worse, I have not seen or spoken to him since July last year, he has done some really awful things since then with the last being in October last year.
We had text that went backwards and forwards at that time but since then nothing, no contact at all. We are currently going through the process of divorce and financial settlement but he is stalling at every turn, probably because it is not in his best interests as I am currently paying everything with no contribution from him.
We do not have children but I want to at least know where I stand financially, my mum wants me to contact him to at least try and resolve the position. I have tried through the solicitor but no joy.
My problem is I really don't want to contact him and do not want to be seen as the pursuer, been there before.
The more I have NC with him the calmer I am, I just don't have the energy anymore to be caught up in his drama, the last 19 months have been like something from a soap opera.
