Moose, I am sorry you're here. The beginning of your story I can relate to. About 16 years ago, my H also started an OEA through a game chat as well. I was pregnant at the time. It is extremely painful and for me, no less so than if he had a PA.
Eventually we worked things out. You never get over it, but you can move on from it. Obviously, I am here so I still have marriage problems but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.
Take time to work on YOU. Be the best Moose you can be. That's attractive to a woman. I'm working on me too. So good luck
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated
