Forgump, thamk you and it is entirely possible its MLC. Also possible that he is bipolar.
I took the be happy and treat him like a cashier to heart. Took my D shopping last night and then laughed and joked with the kids while he hid in the bedroom. He actually initiated a few normal conversations both last night and this morning with no comment about D. He even told me he was going to a friend's house tonight but wouldn't be gone long. This is new. He hasn't been telling me where he's going or talking about anything other than D for weeks.
Now, I don't think this was a miracle, but it was definitely a positive step. That's how I want to see it anyway
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated