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[Moose42]

Hello all.
I am a little way along in my situation.
Marriage has been a drag last couple years. W and I both became complacent.
Stopped growing you could say.
Every aspect of marriage became stagnant.
Back in July/16 I found out W had been in an online EA for 5-6 months. phone bill showed couple thousand texts per month.
She met him on a game chat on her phone.
He is 1500 miles away.
Sounds like he woooed her off her feet. I did everything wrong at that time.
Beg, plead,anger, crying, drunk benders, following her around.
I got the not attracted to you,LYBNILWY,sex life [censored], nothing in common. Things seemed to get a little better for a bit but looking back now I can see she was still fogged out.Next few months were pretty tense around here. She got into an apt.in October.
I told her I would not help her move her stuff then ended up caving in and helping.
As soon as she got out she was nice to me. hugs when parting and all.
I stayed away for a bit then started going to her place for board games with D20 at the time.

Experienced the nice and friendly one day cold and distant the next.
Just like you read on here seemed like someone other than my wife.
I started to back off a little and then just last week I found she is back to texting again.
This time with a guy she knew from childhood.
I have been using the LRT since then. dont know if is too late for marriage being I waited so long to implement any technique.

Trying to detach,GAL and work on some personal growth and goals now. We are both in IC and I am attending A.A.
12 step.
Love the boards and all the good people here.
Peace.