Originally Posted By: Laowai
I am angry at her for the affair obviously....


GOOOOOODDDDD!!!!!

Now channel some of that into detaching. Use that anger to say, I DON'T GIVE A FUNK WHAT TONE YOU THINK I HAVE.

I think you have to fight being clingy and needy. I do believe you should be warm and kind, but that's very different than wanting to engage her every time she says something.


Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final