You might need to speak to a lawyer about the house issue. Maybe it can be stipulated that you and the kids live there until they are 18 and then either you buy him out or sell it at that time. How many years have you been in the home? You may be able to work something in the way of buying him out. I had my home appraised and bought my xh out of my home since my mortgage was very, very low. I certainly wouldn't even think of selling my home until the divorce was final. If you have to sell, it can be stipulated that you have "x" months to refinance or put it on the market. Now is not the time to even consider selling since this is only a trial separation.
What your h is doing is looking for ways to get his hands on money and he sees the house as the honey pot at the end of the rainbow. He's not looking any further than the tip of his nose and quite frankly, he doesn't give a fig about what it's going to cost to refinance, move, etc. His goal is to get the money, run and spend it any way that he can on whatever he wants, be it toys, travel, wooing the ow, etc.
cc, it doesn't matter whether you were the perfect wife, laid golden eggs or jumped through fire, he was destined to have a crisis at some point. It's all about him, his childhood and when he was stunted emotionally as a child. It's not YOU...it's HIM.
If you haven't already done so...make an appointment w/a lawyer and see just what you are entitled to as the spouse and what your children are entitled to. Don't allow this man to dictate to you what you are going to get...the law will tell you exactly what to expect and do not share that info w/him. This is info is for you to figure out what you will need to do. Don't wait too long, as they do become even more selfish about things as they continue down the bunny trail.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
