Working on a Trial Separation Agreement with MLC H

[d_Rose]

Hi Ccgrrl,

Thanks for stopping by my thread. I read up on your sitch last night. Sounds like your H got a hold of the MLC script My H also encouraged me to get IC, while refusing any type of MC together. He wants me to be ok and get help dealing with this. Definitely an attempt to appease his own guilt. In their mind this will all be ok, and everyone will heal just fine, and we will all get over it, and the kids will be great!! (read intense sarcasm)

We never did in house separation, so I can't comment on that vs. physical. For me it was clear there was OW and he refused to stop seeing her. That was the red line for me. Love you, I can forgive you, I want to work on the M, but you cannot stay here if you are sleeping with another woman. He was leaving for a trip and left the day he got home. I'm not sure if it was the right thing to do, but it was just something I could not face on a daily basis. My guess is the same as Job's that there is OW waiting - even if only in his imagination. "Run, escape, evade, into the arms of OW/OM" - Act 2 of MLC script right after Act 1, "ILYBINILWYA."

I think you are right on not condoning or giving permission for him to pursue other women. He will do it regardless if he is so inclined, so don't let him off easy by agreeing to it.

I am pretty new at this as well, so mostly I can offer understanding and hugs. I know how fresh and raw it still is. How much it hurts. Hang in there CC. Everyone here is there for you to vent to.