I got scared by the word cold because of Sandi's rule 18. (18. Do not be nasty, angry or even cold - just pull back and wait to see if spouse notices and, more important, realize what he/she will be missing. (But never ask him/her if he/she has noticed any changes!!) This is important! If you do, then you have blown it.)
Fine. Then you look at your behavior and see what you think she may have taken as cold and try to change that. Assuring her that you arent being cold comes off as pursuing and invalidating. Speak with ACTIONS, not words.
Originally Posted By: Laowai
Honestly at this point, I really feel like asking her what she TRUTHFULLY expects from me right now. I have been nothing but accomodating in this circumstance, and she still spews bullcr@p at me about money. I split our checking and savings accounts months ago and she has more than enough to cover anything that she will need, she just doesn't make enough right now to replenish that if she has to use it. I am guessing you guys wouldn't suggest having that conversation though...correct?
You bolded TRUTHFULLY and Im not sure exactly what you are looking to gain from this conversation. Can you be more clear about how you would want this discussion to go?
