Hi my friend,she started with the tattoos at the start of her mlc,also about 2 months ago got her self a new shiny convert able,also she never used to drink but now goes out and gets drunk about 3 times a month,from what I've read this is symptoms of mlc,she is in replay stage of mlc ,I just don't like the damage she has done on her way thru to me and the kids,we live in a small town and every knows,its upset the kids,she has changed into a s@ut,
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Good job on filling your life with good friends and putting energy into positive things you can enjoy.
Her tattoos? IDK, but it is something that is frequently reported in the stories on the board. It may be on her list of things to do before she gets any older (part of her MLC acting out), however, people have other reasons for tattoos. I have read, and have witnessed, how tattoos can become somewhat addictive.........although, I don't know if that would be the proper word to use. I have noticed in a few people, when they get their first tattoo, it's not long before they are thinking about what next. When they begin covering their body? I would say there is some psychological reason beyond "just liking tattoos"...........but that's just me thinking out loud.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Yes sandi2,I agree,I just find some of the things she is doing very strange,acting like a teenager I know they go like this as part of mlc,I'm starting to wonder if she will ever come out of the tunnel, I know if she does find her way out she will have a lot of shame and guilt for the damage she has caused to her self and family,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
I'm starting to wonder if she will ever come out of the tunnel, I know if she does find her way out she will have a lot of shame and guilt for the damage she has caused to her self and family,
Mine never did. And she is living the "single" life and loving it. Supposedly.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Also Sandi since bd no one ever sees her around our small town,as before bd she used to be seen shopping walking the dog and so on,but since bd nothing think she could be ashamed I did see her in her car once and she turned away and put her head down,what do you make of that sandi
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
Also Sandi since bd no one ever sees her around our small town,as before bd she used to be seen shopping walking the dog and so on,but since bd nothing think she could be ashamed I did see her in her car once and she turned away and put her head down,what do you make of that sandi
I'm not sandi, but I'll chime in. Guilt is the answer you seek.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Thx ,that's what think too,I suppose that's a good thing then if she can see the wrong she is doing is it,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
I'm starting to wonder if she will ever come out of the tunnel, I know if she does find her way out she will have a lot of shame and guilt for the damage she has caused to her self and family,
Mine never did. And she is living the "single" life and loving it. Supposedly.
I find it sad if they don't come out,specialy when they was good wife's before this,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
Hi my friend,she started with the tattoos at the start of her mlc,also about 2 months ago got her self a new shiny convert able,also she never used to drink but now goes out and gets drunk about 3 times a month,from what I've read this is symptoms of mlc,she is in replay stage of mlc ,I just don't like the damage she has done on her way thru to me and the kids,we live in a small town and every knows,its upset the kids,she has changed into a s@ut,
So sad about the tattoos...my W has always said she hates tattoos and that they are low class...and of course the guy she is interested in ...has tattoos...at this point, it wouldn't surprise me if she shows up with one...
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Your right Gordie,its sad to watch the stupid things they do,it saddens me,I find some of it very hard to believe and take in,I was in shock with some of the stuff I've found out,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
