Life is kicking my butt

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I assume you are in the U.S. You need a new lawyer if the current one can't/won't fight for 50% custody for you. Unless you have a criminal record or your wife has actual evidence of any abusive behavior.

If she's just making accusations, they are just that, and a lawyer with any competence should be able to deal with that.

I believe you mentioned making a multiple-six-figure salary. You should be able to afford a very good divorce attorney.