Forgot to mention on my phone call with her I mentioned car insurance was due and she asked if I want her to pay it. I told her I wasn't sure yet.
I texted her back: Me: I hate you feel like I was cold, can you help me understand why? W: Tone. Maybe not a bad thing for codependence Me: ok. Sorry my tone gave a cold impression. I am not cold, so not sure why it sounded that way. Dont think cold is good for anyone. Enjoy your night! W How much and when for car Me: Just curious if I have upset you? (I could tell she was upset by the way she wrote her texts...) W: no, you shouldn't pay for me Me: Ok thanks for clarifying that I haven't upset you. I have to take you at you word so please answer honestly don't just dismiss. I don't have details in front of me for car right now. W: Ok, lmk W: Its upsetting that you casually said you dont know if you want to pay that yet...but i really shouldnt expect anything less. It makes me think again "we moved here for your career and i just found something to do and the money thing pi$$es me off again. (this has come up so many times since BD) Me: I hate that you feel that way. Thanks for being honest. It helps put things in perspective for me. There's so much more to it from my viewpoint, but I can certainly see your viewpoint as well. W: but at this point you shouldn't be paying for me to live Me: I get this point of view also. Hope the rest of your night goes well. W: thanks you too
So, give me input folks. I know I should have been shorter with words, but that is a huge mission for me.
