A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[PacLove]

Thanks seeker - yes an important distinction... It's always good to quantify it with "I feel sad" vs. the absolute "I am sad"

One thing to bare in mind is that feelings are neither right or wrong - we are entitled to our own feelings as is our spouse. No one can change the way we feel, we can however empathize with the way our S feels and try to understand why they feel that way.