Originally Posted By: qt4x11
If you are on this board there's a 95% chance you are headed for D. No amount of books or DB'ing is going to change that. If you let go of the idea that you are going to somehow turn this thing around, you will save a lot of heartache and emotional energy. You are going to need it also - because this is a long, painful, process.


I find this to be a very odd thing to say. No one can give any random "95%" number. We have no clue what the percentage of people on this board end up divorced. Many people leave this board when they start to reconcile and we never hear from them again.

These percentages, like "DB works for 2% of people", can't be proven at all. There can never be any kind of "odds" put on any of the people on these boards. There are also hundreds, if not thousands of people that have lurked over the years and never even posted here. Maybe they read here and implemented DB in their marriages and it worked. We will never know.

I think that the people that are here, have a better chance of saving their marriage, then the people that are not here. There are millions of people around the world going through the same thing that we all are, but they do not have all of the insight that we are privileged to get here.

Just something to think about before we go assigning percentages on the success or failure of DB.


M-42
W-40
S-12
D-10
Together-13 years
Married-10 years
Separated-6/2016
ILYBINILWY-7/2016
EA-4/2016 (best guess)
PA-7/2016 (best guess)