Love is a decision - my story

[JRuss]

I found that hope and detachment didn't go together well at all. Retaining any real hope, almost by definition, makes detaching very hard, if not impossible. And feeling at all happy, good, better, etc. wasn't happening for me before I started detaching. I was beyond stuck, caught in a perpetual cycle of hoping and having hope dashed. So now I'm much more detached and feeling better, but I'm also divorcing this summer unless my W has a wholly-unexpected Paul on the Road to Damascus Moment before then.