So, I plan to respond to some of the other posts in a bit, but had an interesting thing happen. W called to tell me that she scheduled a doctor appointment and told them to use the credit on my account for it (which I had previously told her was Ok.), then she asked if I was doing Ok. I said yep but was kind of rushed at the time as I was trying to get to my doc appointment. She asked who was taking me (because I can't see after the appointment for a few hours) and I told her a lady from work. She said "well you two have fun". A little while later she sends me a text that says she is sorry that I feel like I can't ask her for help.
I haven't responded, and I suppose that I don't have to but I'm guessing that she will later send another text passive agressively complaining that I didn't respond. I hate that I even have to think about all of this.