Needing some Guidance

[KCRoo]

So I am back on track, mostly, I have finished DB, and I am about 60 pages into DR. I have stopped trying to pursue her, no calls no text.

She told me she was going to go stay with a friend for a week, I said that was great. (I know I should have not responded at all, but I am a work in progress.)

I use to make her coffee in the mornings on my way out, I no longer do that. I am going out with my friends, which she questions me about, and I brush her off.

I have really focused on me, eating healthy and working out. She has not said anything, but some of the women at work have (I didn't tell her that). I am down about 10lbs. in a week, which I know is a lot, but I figure I am eating mostly vegetables, and some chicken, and working out, that obviously I was carrying too much weight.

Since my last post, one of the things she confessed to me, unsolicited, mind you was that her physical attraction to me had dwindled. I just let it bounce off of me, and if she doesn't recognize the work I put in than that is her bad.

I read through all six threads by Sandi2 on ws. I generally feel better, and while I would still love to save my marriage, I am beginning to feel ok either way.

(Side note, on Tuesday, 1/10/16, she came home and told me that she stopped talking to the om, that Monday 1/9/16 she sent the last text to him at 9am. While I seem to think that was true, she was really grumpy, and I heard her crying, my gut tells me she started back up yesterday, because she seemed happier. I am just going to continue to focus on me, and not get drawn in anymore to the drama.)