MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Zues126]

Rose, thank you will follow that advice. How to validate?

You are having second thoughts? How does that make you feel? That must be difficult and confusing?

Yes, I read the distance and pursue thread over in MLC but haven't read the book. Thank you for the reminder.

Hmm. That sounds patronizing to me.

I'd probably avoid asking questions.

"It sounds like you are doing a lot of thinking about this."

Just getting caught up on your sitch Gordie.

For me, when they make loaded statements that probe for a reaction, I just act like I didn't get their hint.

So in response to "I'm having doubts" I would just respond with something really nonchalant like "yeah, it can be confusing at times..." I may even add a one syllable chuckle at the beginning.

Point is that I'd make it clear that I heard her and validated her, but just as clear that I wasn't reading into it, wasn't emotionally reacting to it. If she has something to say it would have to be a heck of a lot more content and more direct. For a fragment temp check like this I'll answer in the same vague fashion and move on, letting her wonder about ME instead of the other way around.