Wife has filed for divorce

[Gordie]

I sometimes don't understand why she still unloads on me, when in the past she has said this relationship is dead and she has no feelings or is numb to the relationship, but when she unloads it is obvious that is not the case...when she unloads that is the only thing that makes me think there is still a remote hope that she may be willing to work on the relationship, but that is a very small hope that I hold out

She unloads because she still have years and years of anger built up inside of her that she still hasn't let out...she has to work through that anger...and unfortunately, I don't think you are the person who can help her through that at this point (at one poing long ago, you could have been that person)...it's going to take a long time, but the hope that I have for you is that: you have children together so you will have years of interactions ahead of you (take every little opportunity to show love and kindness); and you both are/were Christians (even if not currently practicing, it's possible for the seed of growth to regrow, if you want it to).