My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment - part 2

[Gordie]

***Ugh, I feel like crying and vomiting at the same time.***

(((Chris73)))

***Yes, I just had an initial consult with a lawyer. Might have been the most depressing hour of my life.***

No, that was BD...remember?

***I'm doing all the right things by staying in the house and continuing to be actively involved with my kids. We talked about how things could go depending on how much my W and I agree on the details of a divorce (assets and custody).***

This L sounds more level headed...

***We talked about a post-nuptial agreement which could help speed things up in the event that one of us files.***

Oh...do a post-nuptial agreement NOW...a few months before S or D...that's interesting...basically you'd be negotiating NOW on everything that will happen...IF/WHEN it happens...I could see the benefit of this if (1) you know you are going to D but just don't know when and (2) this will not be a contentious negotiation...

***The thing that makes me want to vomit is the cost of all this. I am obviously going to need representation regardless of how "fair" my W claims she's going to be. And of course if I have representation, so will she. So now we're talking about spending anywhere between $5-10K to get this done.***

Yes...both of you need representation...and it's expensive...my W and I also don't want to spend a lot of money on Ls, so what we are doing is that we both had our consultations with our Ls...we are going to agree on all the major points for financial assets and custody between the two of us...and then are going to go back to the Ls and tell them what we want...again, my situation my be different than yours in that my W and I are mainly in agreement (at least so far)...

***I just can't understand how she thinks that this would be money well spent as opposed to investing it in college funds for our kids or our retirement.***

She probably doesn't think of the cost and if she does, then it's just the cost of getting done what she wants to get done...

***If things progress in this way I will be in the biggest fight of my life with the person I love the most. It's revolting.***

Why do you think it is going to be a fight? Does it have to be a fight?

***The only silver lining is that she has no intention of making the next move until June. So I absolutely HAVE to spend these next 6 months focusing on DB'ing, GAL'ing and lovingly detaching.***

Chris73--I'm hoping and praying for you to be one of the success stories around here...6 months...the gift of time...