My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment - part 2

[Gordie]

***But I've seen these types of cases a million times and if you're really hoping to reconcile with her you need to let go of her completely.***

Your L shouldn't be giving you unsolicited marital advice...

***Tell her that you'll agree to whatever is fair and let her live with the pressure of having to handle her life without you.***

I agree with this...this is what my W and I are doing...

***She'll soon realize that no one is going to be as good to her as you are.***

This is pure BS/speculation; he has no idea what she'll soon realize...

***And then if she decides to reconcile either during the divorce proceedings or after, it can be on your terms.***

Again, he doesn't know the future, so I call BS on this too...

***...You should start the divorce process as soon as possible.***

You should start the divorce proceedings when YOU WANT TO...not when your L thinks you should...

***If she's willing to be amicable regarding the division of assets and joint custody you should be able to work out an agreement quickly and it won't have to cost you very much in legal fees.***

This is true...

***But the longer you wait the more opportunity she has to decide that she wants more than you're willing to give and then you have a messy legal battle.***

Again, this is BS/speculation...no one can predict the future...and it sounds like he is selling/pressuring you into doing something so he can collect his fees...

***Interesting side note, after I got home and spent some time with S8 before bed I sat down with her at the table to go over any last minute items for the Disney trip that we hadn't gotten to yet. We talked for a while and then she said, "It's really great that you're handling the itinerary. All of those details about what rides to reserve and what shows to go to and where to eat just drives me crazy." So I said, "Well I guess it's good that I'm going with you... one last time." That "one last time" part came out so naturally and I know it took her by surprise. She got red in the face and choked a little on her words. I didn't react at all and just got up and left the room.***

High five!