Wife has filed for divorce

[MrBond]

'I sometimes don't understand why she still unloads on me,'

It shows you never really understood what she was going through. Unlike Txhubby, I was also a betrayed spouse but learned how to deal with it in a healthy way and have no problem helping you.

But I think you acting happy, etc. is the wrong thing to do. She really would rather have you suffer. You said you were married for 17 years yet you said you only changed 4 years ago? Why?