Wife has filed for divorce

[ngs]

Sorry, looking back from the beginning:

She never forgave you but stayed with you, parented with you, continued to have a relationship with you, continued to have sex with you, had two more kids with you?

Yes

You did it again, she didn't end the relationship, but you still didn't resolve your issues. What's keeping the relationship together? Does she really love you and is really forgiving? Or was she dependent on you financially, emotionally, etc. and didn't see a way out? Does she have strict religious or other convictions/social values that kept her in the M?

I believe she still did love me but no has never forgiven me. And yes financially dependent on me, has told me she should have left me long ago but never did out of fear, also at the time I think she believed she should try to stick it out because we were Christians, church goers, involved in small groups but over the years she is involved in none of that anymore. Had I taken the necessary steps early on we could have repaired our marriage but she has said I would try and then give up time and time again and she's not willing to put in the work anymore and still not have it work out in the end.

Okay, she's been thinking about this for a LOOONG time. She's also at the perfect age for a MLC (if so, read the homework in that forum). We know she's unhappy with her M. Is she unhappy about other things? Her appearance? Aging/health? Educational/professional goals? Being more than just a W and mother? Is she involved with an OM or has she identified a POM?

She is unhappy with the position she is in, no full time job, no savings, no retirement and looking back now not happy with most of her choices over the years. Not only angry at me but also angry at herself. And no there is no OM, its just all the years of unhappiness, bottling up her emotions, she's done with the marriage and is now letting out all her emotions.