Had my first DB coaching session yesterday. She (the coach) definitely advised a softer, warmer approach than the anti-cake-eating, tough love approach we hear in the forum.
Yes, that's what my coach said, too. That's what I'm doing, as well.
Originally Posted By: ForGump
Her philosophy is that a solid friendship is the foundation of a good marriage.
Again, that's what mine said. I agree, kindness and friendship (like being a gracious host to a houseguest) is the approach that my coach recommended. It makes sense, even if it runs counter to the concept of "you don't want to be in the friend zone".[/quote]
I'm glad you got the professional advice from the coach for your specific situation. If you do the next session, I believe you'll do an exercise in putting yourself in your W's shoes; an exercise in empathy. It may also help in how you interact with your wife. Though I was already aware of my own culpabilities in the demise of my marriage, the exercises helped me to further take perspective. It's hard, but the coaching has been helpful, I think.
