cheesyt6 - 10months in and W is still far away..

[lt0402]

Cheesyt, I don't think that W is truly doing what is best for D. She may perceive it to be the best thing, but remember that her viewpoint is very skewed right now. I'm sorry to hear about your MIL though, I know you are very close with her.

I remember what your W said D was saying about you back in October. Don't believe that nonsense. You've seen my W throw out nonsense like that too. As we progress and get a better understanding of our situations we see that talk from W for what it is. Either projecting or outright lies. Please don't allow that to weigh on you, as you seem to have a good R with your D.

I know that you are feeling down and lost right now. Each of these text conversations with your W seem to sap a bit of energy from you. What is the longest you've gone NC with her for? It seems like she's taking you for granted, knowing you're there for her if she needs you. Maybe going dark changes the equation. It's a scary step, I know, especially since you're worried about losing her. But it doesn't seem like your current path is forcing your W to question her decisions. thoughts on that?

Cheesyt, I look at you and how far you've come and see this wonderful and independent person. Your W is a fool for not seeing the same. As for answering her text what would make YOU feel the most at ease? Do you feel strongly enough that D should have you in her life right now that you'd shake your W by pushing back on her? If so, then you should state your opinion. Know that W will probably shoot it down though. If not, then maybe a msg like "I can see how you're going through some difficult times right now. Please tell D I'm thinking of her" would work better. Just a thought and I'd probably wait for a vet to help more.

Know that you are not being rejected cheesyt. You have so many people in your life that are ecstatic to have you around, from your roommate to your friends at work to all of the folks here. Who cares what one crazy, off their rocker person (your W) thinks. We all know you are awesome! Hang in there cheesyt! You deserve better than this!