MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Gordie]

Hey Gordie, I just finish reading through your threads and what a journey you have been on. I believe what you said is true on her wanting to have a journey and feel like a free person to do what she wants to do. That is something I am still struggling with even though she moved out a few months ago. But just remember decisions have consequences. And each person has to deal with there own consequences for their decisions. So unless they can realize that their fantasies are not all that they are made out to be in real life on their own the change will never happen.

Yes, but right now she is only experiencing the fantasy of her dreams and comparing it the reality of her M to me and she is choosing the fantasy. She says she may be making the biggest mistake of her life but that she has to do it. She acknowledges that she could stay M to me and that her life would be safe and predictable. But right now she wants to take some risks and see if her fantasies can become reality. She says she doesn't want to be on her death bed and regret not taking this chance now. She uses MLC language that time is running out. It hurts to get dumped for a fantasy but I recognize that fantasies are powerful and that is what she is choosing. I am heartbroken but I do love her and think the loving thing to do now is to step back. Yes, it may mean we willl never be together again, but this is her choice. I'm not the tough love guy and maybe that is a fatal flaw, but I am praying daily for guidance to do what is right. I think of the story of the Produgal Son and how the father let the son go and waited for him to come back.