Love is a decision - my story

[Seeker7]

I wish that applied to my sich, but my W didn't confide in anyone about us - we don't have family nearby on either side and she only told 2 of her closest friends about the S and no one about the A.

Well right after she told me she was moving out she went around and told all of her friends and relatives. Right after she moved out she blocked me on FB and put up that she was separated. The interesting thing is, is that she never changed her profile pic of me and her with the kids.

I momentarily got caught up in the "could there be something better" but my W turning around quickly changed that perception.

I was there and trust me the grass is not greener on the other side especially if at one point the M was very good. Another thing to mention is that a have a couple of older friends that are in their second M for over a decade and both of them told me to things. One is that they wish they would have tried harder for their first marriage and second is they are no happier now then they were in their first marriage at this point. One of them I talk to a lot has kids from their first M and him and his ex have a better R then they ever had and they both get more out of talking to each other then to their own S. I thought that was pretty interesting.

This statistic still shocks me - and yet I've come across it over and over again. It's hard to believe that half of the M out there fall victim to this, but easy to see now that I've lived through it. It certainly gets you wondering about your family/friends and their marriages... doesn't it?

Yah it does get me thinking. Just think that one out of two married couples you know have had, are having or will have an A.