Think you have to wait/let her hit rock bottom its hard but time is your friend,remember the saying its just a matter of time,if she is mlc this is not your wife its an alien,

Me 56 w52
M30 years
4x adult kids
W dad died/11
W wanted d 03/12
In-house sep 03/12
D 2014 I pushed
W Left on 02/16 I pushed
Pa on 07/16
Nc after 07/16
W Cakeating 15to16
Me doormat 12to16
Limbo 12to16