Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #2

[Woke_Up]

journaling:

Well after thinking about things, my thoughts, thoughts of others here on the forum, I decided I was being too much of a cuck with this whole situation.

By ignoring the fact that WW was continuing her EA, and still effectively being a dutiful & affectionate husband, I was losing my self confidence, and possibly even more of my WW's respect. Can't read minds so I don't know this. That's just how it felt.

So, rightly or wrongly, I did the following:

Looked at her new phone, which wasn't locked. Wasn't bothered about reading anything, or snooping in particular. Just confirmed she was still carrying on & still within the house to try and regain some of my anger at the situation. Maybe anger isn't the right word. Just some sort of energised emotion, which had been lacking in me,.

Marched down to the utility room where she was sat with her phone and a joint. Told her to go outside if she was doing that.

Told her if I caught her doing it again I would block her phone from the WiFi for 24 hours as I wasn't going to pay for her to continue.

Said she should probably sleep somewhere else tonight (she won't)

Said that I wasn't going to let her continuing to treat me like her husband when she wasn't acting like my wife.

WW said she was just trying to find the right time to end things. My reply was that I don't want to know about the right time,I want to know when it's over, and repeated that she couldn't continue to use me as a dutiful husband while behaving like this.

Anyway, thoughts on this, anyone? My aim was just to regain some sort of passion about the sitch as I have slipped into dutiful H limbo. I am also hoping that this will help me in my aim to apply a more tough love approach and a sturdier boundary.

As many have noted, I am not good with my boundaries.

On another note, I am re-reading DR, will review my objectives, and then share them with this forum for some feedback, see what the veteran DB'ers have to say.