can i still hold out hope that in the future, if we work on our issues and become stable, we can be together?
Yes. But I wouldnt put your life on hold waiting for that.
Originally Posted By: james17
i want to warn her about this new bf, whom I think is preying on her vulnerability. can i talk to her about it? she said she is open to input.
You can, but she isnt going to listen to you. If it were me, Id keep my mouth shut on that. Anything you say will only drive the two of them together.
Originally Posted By: james17
how should i act when i am with her? if i do the 180 thing, i would just be very mature and responsible, and able to make the hard decision to just leave the state and not talk for a while.
Be upbeat like you are meeting an old work acquaintance. Listen 3 times more than you talk. Don't ask too many questions about her or her future. Act as if you are living your life and youre doing well.
Originally Posted By: james17
can i ask if we still have a chance to save the marriage in the future?
Only if you want to hear her say 'no'.
Originally Posted By: james17
can i talk about why i think our relationship didn’t work?
I wouldnt really. I think youre better off touching on your R as little as possible. I would CERTAINLY avoid pointing out HER problems.
